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I am currently the youngest patient in my infusion center. Now, my oncology office only has a few doctors who specialize in just a handful of cancer types, so this is not to say that there isn’t more patients just down the hall that would be in my age range. I also have one of the longest infusion treatments at this office, at right around six hours. So I see and talk to a lot of people as they come and go from treatment. I talk to the nurses mostly because most patients use their time wisely and catch a few zzzz’s, but I can never sleep while I am there. One of the things people are so shocked by when they talk to me is that I have four kids. They immediately tell me that I look like I am fresh out of high school (must be the baby smooth head) but I assure them I have the stretch marks to prove it. The conversations usually start by talking about cancer, then they morph into many other things from dogs, to politics, to travel, kids, and “millennials”.
I find people in general completely fascinating, and although I always regret not pursuing a degree in equine medicine, I do love that I got my degree in psychology. So I absorb all these little conservations like a sponge. What I have taken away is a whole new respect for the Modern Mom, or I guess you could say Millennial Moms. See, we are a different breed. The first generation of post-Cold War moms, the generation that got to watch the internet grow into the power force that it is today, and the generation of moms that have this interconnectivity through social media.
We don’t fit inside a box, and we probably need more than just a few lines to write on when answering the question “occupation?”. Fun fact: when I fill out forms I usually write ” director of in house operations” for the occupation section. Because I just don’t think I only fit into a working mom category or a stay at home mom category. Not to mention I just get a good laugh when people read that part. But anyway….
I interact with so many moms on a daily basis who’s lives all look completely different. From moms who work in an office, to moms who work part-time from home, or full time from home, business owners, or moms who turned a hobby into a full ledge income, and just about any combination in between. I feel like the modern mom has so many unique characteristics, and hobbies outside of wrangling children. I think that is another reason why comparing yourself to another mom today is just a waste of time. We all care about different things and are working towards different goals, and our threshold for crazy is more than likely at different levels.
But when I talk to people about what parenting used to look like, or how it has changed, I find that right now we are all swimming in uncharted territory. Our children are the guinea pigs of iPads, you tube kids, green kale almond butter breakfast smoothies, their own instagram hashtags, fidget spinners, Tide pods (now why the hell are people trying to eat soap?), common core, Hatchimals, Netflix, Elf on The Shelf…..and so many more things. There are probably a thousand ways to get things wrong, and in 15 years there will be a thousand studies that come out saying the exact opposite.
I feel like this could be the beauty of motherhood right now though. Modern moms have such an influence on products, marketing, branding. They possess overwhelmingly sharp investigative skills, online review decoding, and Twitter opinions. It’s fascinating, or at least I think so.
Our daily lives may look completely different, but the messy corners of our house or the undeniable fact that nothing throws you into a fit of rage quite like stepping on a Lego, unifies us.